Divorce is ultimately about getting a fresh start, and wanting a better life is nothing to be ashamed of, says Kathryn Smerling, Ph.D., a family therapist and divorce expert. “Some people still think that you should stay married just for the sake of it, even if you’re unhappy. But why would you do that?” she asks.
If you’re really struggling to shake negative feelings after a divorce, Smerling recommends connecting with a therapist. “Unresolved feelings of shame and guilt can lead to depression and feelings of paralysis,” she says. “So if you’re feeling that way, it’s important to go seek professional help.”