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# Kathryn Smerling, Ph.D.

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- [Weighing in on the Tiger Mom: A Personal Reflection](https://drksmerling.com/weighing-in-on-the-tiger-mom-a-personal-reflection-family-therapy-and-child-therapy/) - Thankfully the Tiger Mom's children were able to keep up with her demands. But at what cost? Lack of individuality? Stunted emotional growth?
- [Enough With Charlie Sheens Narcissism!](https://drksmerling.com/enough-with-charlie-sheens-narcissism-one-on-one-adult-therapy-and-therapist-practice/) - Charlie Sheens narcissism is out of control! Take a risk Charlie, put your money to good use. Help others, before we all turn off our televisions.
- [Forgiveness Is An Opportunity](https://drksmerling.com/forgiveness-is-an-opportunity-relationship-counseling-and-psychotherapy-nyc/) - Forgiving is learned. It takes a conscious effort to make yourself healthy and let go of past ‘injustices.’ Forgiveness is an opportunity.
- [Get Out of Your Own Way](https://drksmerling.com/get-out-of-your-own-way-adult-therapy-and-counseling/) - Once you actively choose to do something more productive, then you will get out of your own way and give into the choice for a better life.
- [From Where I Sit: Reflections on Mothers Day](https://drksmerling.com/from-where-i-sit-reflections-on-mothers-day-family-therapy-nyc-and-siblings-therapy/) - Reflections on Mothers Day - It’s lovely to get flowers and cards, but the real satisfaction comes from knowing you did the best job you could.
- [Getting Into Character](https://drksmerling.com/getting-into-character-parent-coordinator-and-family-counselor/) - Getting into character of the roles and personas from books people read can be transformative, engaging, and empowering.
- [Your Equinox Resolution](https://drksmerling.com/your-equinox-resolution-relationship-counseling-nyc-and-family-therapist-nyc/) - Instead of a New Year’s Resolution we will call it your Equinox Resolution. Put your Equinox Resolution in a special place and open in on Labor Day.
- [If This Were My Last Day](https://drksmerling.com/if-this-were-my-last-day-mental-health-and-counseling/) - What does it take to make you appreciate your life just a little bit more? Why does it usually take a life shattering event or an illness to make us fully appreciate the simple joys in life? We have all heard this before but when does it really resonate? Today it resonated with me. I
- [Exercise is the Ultimate Cure!](https://drksmerling.com/exercise-is-the-ultimate-cure-mental-health-and-one-on-one-adult-therapy-nyc/) - Maybe Dad was right – exercise is the ultimate cure. His motto: “exercise cures all”.
- [Crisis of Conscience](https://drksmerling.com/crisis-of-conscience-family-systems-approach-and-child-therapy-nyc/) - Are you familiar with New York City drivers? If you are not, let me tell you…they are ruthless. Taxis dart in and out, professional drivers race each other, and even us ordinary people feel a competitive edge on the road. Last night I had a driver who broke all the “New York City” rules. While
- [A Reflection on Divorce](https://drksmerling.com/a-comment-on-the-gores-divorce-therapy-nyc-and-divorce-psychiatrist/) - When my son first entered kindergarten in 1998 (an all boys school) there were 40 boys. All were from families that had a very traditional structure. By the time he was in fourth grade, 21 out of the 40 sets of parents separated and had chosen alternative lifestyles. To me this will always stand as
- [Repeat or Repair](https://drksmerling.com/repeat-or-repair-family-therapy-nyc-and-family-counselor-nyc/) - I sound just like my mother. How often have you thought that classic phrase…either shuddering because it’s something that appalls you or smiling because it’s something that you loved. We all do that; moms and dads. Especially when your first child is born and the whole experience is frighteningly new. It’s an instinctive jump –
- [Being Curious About Your Child](https://drksmerling.com/being-curious-about-your-child-family-counselor-nyc-and-parenting-coordination-nyc/) - You can even make yourself vulnerable and share your own stories. A discussion like that, one of being curious about your child, opens possibilities and is an authentic expression of curiosity on behalf of your child.
- [Listening to Our Children](https://drksmerling.com/listening-to-our-children-child-therapy-nyc-and-family-counselor/) - Listening to our children is an important skill to learn. If we take the time to really listen, we may find that they are smarter than we think.
- [Heading Into Winter](https://drksmerling.com/heading-into-winter-mental-health-and-psychologist/) - Today feels like the first day of Fall, although by the calendar date Fall commenced almost two weeks ago. The days feel shorter, there is a briskness in the air, and my body clock is responding to the change of season. Physically and emotionally, our bodies accommodate to temperature and light. And although Fall is
- [Including Children in Grief](https://drksmerling.com/including-children-in-grief-family-counselor-nyc-and-child-therapyfamily-counselor-nyc-and-child-therapyfamily-counselor-nyc-and-child-therapyfamily-counselor-nyc-and-child-therapyfamily-counselor-nyc/) - Inevitably, there will be a leap to fears and anxieties about your own mortality. This is the time to include children in grief into the conversation.
- [Discombobulated](https://drksmerling.com/discombobulated-family-therapist-and-parenting-coordination-nyc/) - I am discombobulated. The aftermath of mega-hurricane Sandy has left even those unaffected by the ravages of the storm anxiety-ridden, disconnected and thrown off balance.
- [The Lesson of Hurricane Sandy: The Act of Giving](https://drksmerling.com/the-lesson-of-hurricane-sandy-the-act-of-giving-child-therapy-nyc-and-family-counselor-nyc/) - This storm may be the perfect opportunity for one of those “teaching moments” – that the act of giving is as important as the act of receiving.
- [Welcome to Stepparenting!](https://drksmerling.com/welcome-to-stepparenting-family-systems-approach-and-family-counselor/) - Welcome to Stepparenting! Being a stepparent is a complex and challenging role. Children are not obligated to instantly love you.
- [A Stepparents Survival Guide for the Holidays](https://drksmerling.com/a-stepparents-survival-guide-for-the-holidays-parenting-coordination-and-family-systems-approach/) - For those of you that have added the moniker “stepparent” to the resume, here are 10 pointers that are a stepparents survival guide for the holidays!
- [Thoughts on Newtown](https://drksmerling.com/thoughts-on-newtown-psychotherapy-nyc-and-psychologist/) - my thoughts on Newtown, and my hypothesis, is that by withdrawing her son from high school and home schooling him, it may have seemed like a protective measure, but it may also have been a lethal decision.
- [A Grown Up Wedding](https://drksmerling.com/a-grown-up-wedding-couples-counseling-and-marriage-counseling-nyc/) - This was my first Grown Up Wedding but it reminded me to tend your garden instead of standing back to notice its imperfections.
- [The Potential for Peaceful Television](https://drksmerling.com/the-potential-for-peaceful-television-child-therapist-nyc-and-parent-coordinator/) - The bottom line is that we have the potential as a society to reduce violence by encouraging better behavior and encouraging peaceful television.
- [Double Whammy](https://drksmerling.com/double-whammy-siblings-therapy-and-psychotherapist-nyc/) - It was a double whammy! It has been exactly a year since my father passed away; and this traditional year of mourning has taken on new meaning for me.
- [I Am Not Perfect!](https://drksmerling.com/i-am-not-perfect-parenting-coordination-nyc-and-therapist-practice/) - Repeat, "I am not perfect, and I forgive myself." Remember that the act of forgiveness is an act of grace and your child will learn more from your imperfections than your guilt.
- [Losing Mommy Guilt: 5 Quick Strategies](https://drksmerling.com/losing-mommy-guilt-5-quick-strategies-family-counselor-and-family-therapist/) - I have developed several techniques that may help take some of the pressure off, remind you that you're a terrific mom, and help in losing mommy guilt.
- [Nurturing Creativity](https://drksmerling.com/nurturing-creativity-psychologist-nyc-and-parent-coordinator/) - When nurturing creativity, there is no right way to do anything. We can give the tools but not the end result.
- [The African Dream Academy](https://drksmerling.com/the-african-dream-academy-psychotherapist-nyc-and-psychologist-nyc/) - As parents, the best way to teach empathy to your kids is by example. Donate to African Dream Academy and see what a few dollars can do for the kids.
- [Stress in the Workplace](https://drksmerling.com/stress-in-the-workplace-mental-health-and-one-on-one-adult-therapy-nyc/) - With more stress in the workplace, what is the fallout? We have to ask long and hard questions, and have to look honestly at what we can and can't change.
- [Reflections on the Boston Bombing](https://drksmerling.com/reflections-on-the-boston-bombing-therapist-practice-and-psychologist-nyc/) - Reflections on the Boston Bombing - The modern day conundrum is how do we teach our children peace and cooperation while they see real violence and act out fantasy violence?
- [Infertility After IVF](https://drksmerling.com/infertility-after-ivf-couples-counseling-manhattan-and-couples-counseling-nyc/) - Infertility after IVF - There is no description of the shame, despair, and the inadequacy the woman feels when infertility treatments do not work.
- [Life After Divorce: Collaborative Parenting](https://drksmerling.com/life-after-divorce-collaborative-parenting-divorce-therapy-manhattan-and-separation-marriage-counseling/) - Despite a divorce, parents can create a less stressful experience for their children. Here are 5 quick tools to begin the collaborative parenting process.
- [Seven Keys to Reduce Yelling](https://drksmerling.com/seven-keys-to-reduce-yelling-one-on-one-adult-therapy-nyc-and-adult-therapy/) - Yelling inflicts emotional abuse, producing the same scars on children as a slap in the face. Here are seven keys to reduce yelling.
- [How to Recognize Anxiety in Your 4-Year Old](https://drksmerling.com/how-to-recognize-anxiety-in-your-4-year-old-child-therapist-nyc-and-family-counselor-nyc/) - There are a few things we, as parents, can do to recognize anxiety in your 4-year old.
- [December Reflection: Playing It Backwards](https://drksmerling.com/december-reflection-playing-it-backwards-mental-health-and-therapist-practice-nyc/) - It is a perfect time to take stock and reflect on what "this year has been about." Counter-intuitively, the only way to play it forward is first playing it backwards.
- [Make Long-Term Marriage Work](https://drksmerling.com/make-long-term-marriage-work-marriage-counseling-nyc-and-couples-therapy-nyc/) - Your compatibility, expectations, intimacy, and long-term goals will put your marriage on the road to make long-term marriage work.
- [Help Liberia](https://drksmerling.com/help-liberia-psychotherapist-nyc-and-therapist-practice/) - Please help Liberia. However small or large, you can be a part of a global solution!
- [The Not So Anonymous Ebola Crisis](https://drksmerling.com/the-not-so-anonymous-ebola-crisis-psychotherapy-nyc-and-counseling/) - Ebola crisis, this year I will not be able to go.The African Dream Academy is the embodiment of this survivor nation. It is more than just a school.
- [Physical Challenges](https://drksmerling.com/physical-challenges-mental-health-and-psychotherapy-nyc/) - I have a confession to make: I am an undiagnosed dyslexic! I cannot tell my right from my left. I cannot follow directions; nor, am I able to give directions. I am challenged spatially. It’s a longstanding joke in my family that I often walk diagonally, listing to the left instead of walking in a
- [Shake or Stir?](https://drksmerling.com/shake-or-stir-psychotherapy-nyc-and-counselor/) - This past month seems to have been all about random acts of violence. Witnessing the MetroNorth train crash, the terrorist attacks in Paris and Denmark and the tragic death of Bob Simons, coupled with the coldest days in two decades, can drive us into hibernation and self pity. When we feel out of control, we
- [Opting Out](https://drksmerling.com/opting-out-siblings-therapy-and-therapist-nyc/) - I truly enjoyed giving myself the permission of opting out. Now, I will support my friends, family, and clients when they are needing to “opt out.”
- [A Marriage Recipe!](https://drksmerling.com/a-marriage-recipe-marriage-counseling-nyc-and-marriage-psychologist-nyc/) - Each relationship has three entities: yourself; your partner; and the relationship itself. What follows below is my marriage recipe.
- [New York Post article on New Luxury Playtime Perks](https://drksmerling.com/new-york-post-article-on-new-luxury-playtime-perks-child-therapy-nyc-and-family-therapy-nyc/) - Kathryn Smerling, Ph.D. recently quoted in April 23rd's New York Post article on New Luxury Playtime Perks. "No child will appreciate the joy of sharing an intimate experience with a parent if this is the norm" - Upper East Side Family Therapist Kathryn Smerling.
- [Deflection and Denial](https://drksmerling.com/deflection-and-denial-psychologist-and-psychotherapist-nyc/) - Oftentimes, a diagnosis of cancer within a family results in the opposite response from family members: deflection and denial.
- [My Parent's Home](https://drksmerling.com/my-parents-home-family-therapist-nyc-and-siblings-therapy/) - I just returned from Florida where my sister and I spent four days deconstructing my parents’ home. Both Mom and Dad passed within the last couple of years – and we just sold their house after a series of rentals. It’s been bittersweet and liberating at the same time. It’s hard to let go, yet
- [When Too Much Is Not Good Enough](https://drksmerling.com/when-too-much-is-not-good-enough-parenting-coordination-and-family-counselor-nyc/) - In 1953, David Winnicott coined the term “the good-enough mother.” In short, his work gave mothers permission to be more human and less perfect. We can be great mothers even if we cannot meet our children’s needs 100% of the time. Winnicott eased the minds and souls of all of us Type-A women. We could
- [Ashley Madison](https://drksmerling.com/ashley-madison-couples-therapy-nyc-and-marriage-counseling-nyc/) - Five years ago, a couple walked into my office with a crisis - the husband’s infidelity. This was not unusual for me as a family therapist. What was a first in my practice, was that “Ashley Madison” was the other woman! Since then, Ashley Madison has generated 37 million “other women” - 31 million men
- [Connecting (or Not) in The Golden Age of Communication?](https://drksmerling.com/connecting-or-not-in-the-golden-age-of-communication-relationship-therapist-and-relationship-counseling-nyc/) - Jerry Seinfeld said, “We’ve fallen into a trap of ever widening orbits of contact, and there is a total disregard for the present moment.” As Seinfeld does, he captures the world today in one poignant quip. We have people on our LinkedIN accounts, friends on our Facebook accounts, FitBit friends, Instagram buddies, ad infinitum. How
- [The Gift of Forgiveness Benefits All](https://drksmerling.com/the-gift-of-forgiveness-benefits-all-relationship-counseling-nyc-and-relationship-therapy/) - Now that the holidays are over and the weather has turned to winter cold, January is the perfect month for mindfulness and reflection. This month, I would like to look at one small aspect of being mindful – that of forgiveness. How do we begin? First, we need to recognize that forgiveness is a conscious
- [Divorce: Survey Reveals the Good in the Bad](https://drksmerling.com/divorce-survey-reveals-the-good-in-the-bad-divorce-counseling-and-separation-marriage-counseling/) - For many, divorce is the final act—there’s no going back. In fact, 80 percent of divorced people say they feel like they got a second chance after divorce—a fresh start. But for others, divorce offers potential for a repeat encore. A recent poll indicates that about one in four—or more accurately 27 percent of divorcees—have
- [What Do Selfies Do to Our Experiences?](https://drksmerling.com/what-do-selfies-do-to-our-experiences-mental-health-and-relationship-counseling-nyc/) - I just returned from a moving and enlightening trip to Peru, visiting the Andes, Machu Pichu, and the Sacred Valley. Everywhere we went I was awestruck by the beauty of a culture and people who had to work intimately with nature to preserve their history and arts. But, everywhere we turned, one exceptional artifice also
- [Eye-To-Eye, or Screen-To-Screen?](https://drksmerling.com/461-psychotherapy-and-psychotherapist/) - Quick – how many friends do you have? No, don’t just include your bosom buddies, or long-time loyal shoulders-to-cry-on; how many friends, in the real, and the virtual world? If you’re like most of us, then you probably will need time and a calculator to add them all up. We have connections on our LinkedIn
- [The Art of Blending Families](https://drksmerling.com/the-art-of-blending-families-family-therapist-nyc-and-psychologist-nyc/) - Blended families are an ever-evolving dynamic which, when nurtured, can be immensely functional and inclusive. But, creating that blended family is nothing short of a skillful work of emotional art. Brick by brick, building a patchwork family out of the shards of what was once a nuclear family is fraught with difficulty. There are conflicting
- [Helping Soldiers with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder](https://drksmerling.com/helping-soldiers-with-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-psychotherapy-nyc-and-interpersonal-traumas/) - The emotional life of soldiers has long been pushed into the shadows. It seems to go with the territory. After all, acting as an effective member of the military requires following orders and doing whatever is required to defend your country against the enemy—at all costs. ”I think he was haunted by everything he experienced
- [What Happens When You Don't Face Your Fears?](https://drksmerling.com/what-happens-when-you-dont-face-your-fears-psychotherapy-nyc-and-interpersonal-traumas/) - The violence of the past weeks is personally frightening and collectively overwhelming, and it’s only building on what’s happened in the recent past. According to PBS Newshour, in 2015 alone, there were 372 mass shootings in the U.S., killing 475 and wounding 1,870. Random violence is unpredictable and shakes the order of life. Unfortunately, this
- [Damartes](https://drksmerling.com/damartes-best-family-therapist-and-how-to-find-a-therapist-nyc/) - Ten years ago there were only two options for the women of La Boquilla, a poor neighborhood in Cartagena, Colombia. The choice was simple: either a woman stayed home, bore children, cleaned and served her husband; or she could sell herself sexually. Thankfully, this has now changed. Ten years ago, at the age of 30,
- [Peace on the Table](https://drksmerling.com/peace-on-the-table-siblings-therapy-and-family-systems-approach/) - Thanksgiving is long past; Christmas and Hanukkah arrive in a couple of days. If you escaped political dissension during the former, consider yourself one of the lucky few! Hunkering down to the December holidays (and yet more time with loved ones) may mean additional emotional hurdles to navigate. To those of you who have avoided
- [What's the Proper Etiquette For Dealing With Crying Babies on a Plane?](https://drksmerling.com/whats-the-proper-etiquette-for-dealing-with-crying-babies-on-a-plane-parenting-coordination-and-child-therapist-nyc/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about the proper etiquette for dealing with crying babies on a plane on bravotv.com. She’s quoted as saying: That said, any parent knows that there’s no such thing as being too prepared. You have to expect the unexpected, especially when it comes to airline travel with your child. "It's
- [Most Couples Say Traveling Together Keeps The Spark Alive, So Here Are The Most Romantic U.S. Cities](https://drksmerling.com/most-couples-say-traveling-together-keeps-the-spark-alive-so-here-are-the-most-romantic-u-s-cities-couples-counseling-manhattan-and-relationship-therapist/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about how traveling together can keep the spark alive in your relationship on Bustle.com. She’s quoted as saying: Finding "couple time" is not only "highly important" but in fact, "crucial", Dr. Kathryn Smerling, New York City based psychotherapist tells Bustle. "If you're no longer making an effort or
- [Beau Biden’s Brother, Widow in Romantic Relationship](https://drksmerling.com/beau-bidens-brother-widow-in-romantic-relationship-therapist-practice-and-counseling/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about Beau Biden's widow being in a new romantic relationship on Pix11.com. She’s quoted as saying: "This is a relationship that is often created out of a bond of mourning," psychotherapist Dr. Kathryn Smerling told PIX11 News. Smerling says creating a connection in a time of grief
- [3 Weight-Loss Success Stories That Prove the Scale Is Bogus](https://drksmerling.com/3-weight-loss-success-stories-that-prove-the-scale-is-bogus-therapist-with-good-reviews-and-psychotherapist-nyc/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece how the bathroom scale isn't a great way to measure your weight loss success on Popsugar.com. She’s quoted as saying: Throw away your scale. Seriously. "You need to start associating movement with something other than a number on the scale," said Movemeant Foundation founder and senior SoulCycle
- [New Yorkers who couldn’t take off work for ‘A Day Without A Woman’ share support for marchers](https://drksmerling.com/new-yorkers-who-couldnt-take-off-work-for-a-day-without-a-woman-share-support-for-marchers-psychologist-and-counselor/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about workers supporting those who couldn't take off work for 'A Day Without A Woman' marches in Pix11.com. She’s quoted as saying: "I don't know what exactly a day without women is," Dr. Kathryn Smerling, an Upper East Side psychologist told PIX11. "But it is good if
- [Video Shows Woman With Head Stuck In Subway Door In The Bronx](https://drksmerling.com/video-shows-woman-with-head-stuck-in-subway-door-in-the-bronx-difficulties-with-self-expression-and-psychologist/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about a news story about a woman who gets her head stuck in an elevator on newyork.cbslocal.com. She’s quoted as saying: Psychologist Kathryn Smerling said Neal’s analysis was spot-on. “We are living in a desensitized culture. We are becoming numb to front-page news which shows horrific acts
- [How To Survive Your First Vacation As A Couple](https://drksmerling.com/how-to-survive-your-first-vacation-as-a-couple-couples-counseling-midtown-and-couples-therapy-new-york/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about ways you can make your first vacation as a married couple more enjoyable on Bustle.com. She’s quoted as saying: Going on vacation as a couple can be a thrilling opportunity. Not only that, it's a great way to show you're making an effort — to really block out
- [Ask Yourself These 4 Questions Before You Even Think About Cheating](https://drksmerling.com/ask-4-questions-even-think-cheating-marriage-counseling-new-york-and-relationship-therapy/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about asking yourself these four questions before you even think about cheating on Women'sHealth.com. She’s quoted as saying: The first things you should think about are the ramifications if you get caught—because chances are you will. Whether you secretly want to sabotage your relationship or you know
- [Why Taking a Vacation Is the Best Thing You Can Do For Your Career](https://drksmerling.com/why-taking-a-vacation-is-the-best-thing-you-can-do-for-your-career-mental-health-and-therapist-practice/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about how taking a vacation is the best thing you can do for your career on NBCNEWS.com. She’s quoted as saying: “The mental and physical benefits of taking time off work include improved sleep, a better headspace, more clarity and increased creativity,” explains Dr. Kathryn Smerling, a
- [What Does It Mean If I Don't Feel Connected To My Baby? Your Feelings Are Valid & Common](https://drksmerling.com/mean-dont-feel-connected-baby-feelings-valid-common-parenting-coordination-nyc-and-family-therapist-nyc/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about not connecting with your child post partum by Romper.com. She's quoted as saying: Bonding leads to attachment, and "attachment is the lasting psychological connectiveness between human beings," writes Dr. Kathryn Smerling, PhD, citing the work of attachment theorist John Bowlby. According to Smerling, the most important way to
- [Taking Vacations Could Improve Your Salary And Productivity, Study Finds](https://drksmerling.com/taking-vacations-could-improve-your-salary-and-productivity-study-finds-psychotherapist-nyc-and-therapist-with-good-reviews/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about how vacations can improve your salary and productivity on ibtimes.com. She’s quoted as saying: Not using vacation days also deteriorates your health. “The mental and physical benefits of taking time off work include improved sleep, a better headspace, more clarity and increased creativity,” Dr. Kathryn Smerling,
- [An Ugly Divorce Can Affect A Child’s Long-Term Health](https://drksmerling.com/ugly-divorce-can-affect-childs-long-term-health-divorce-therapy-midtown-and-child-therapy-nyc/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about how an ugly divorce can affect a child's long term mental health by Fatherly.com. She’s quoted as saying: “Any kind of anxiety caused by divorce or separation can and will affect a child’s physical health,” explains Kathryn Smerling, an Upper East Side psychotherapist focused on family
- [7 Tips to Rock Pregnancy When You're Doing It Solo](https://drksmerling.com/7-tips-rock-pregnancy-youre-solo-mental-health-and-counseling/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about rocking your pregnancy when you're doing it solo by Parents.com. She’s quoted as saying: "The first thing any woman facing a solo pregnancy should realize is that there are endless options for support," explains Kathryn Smerling, Ph.D., LCSW, a family therapist in New York City. She
- [These First Date Marriage Propositions Resulted In Happily Ever Afters](https://drksmerling.com/these-first-date-marriage-propositions-resulted-in-happily-ever-afters-marriage-counseling-midtown-and-marriage-psychologist/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about first date marriage proposals that have resulted in happy marriages on BravoTV.com. She’s quoted as saying: “People have a sense of intention. Now's the time,” says Dr. Kathryn Smerling Ph.D., L.C.S.W. in New York City. “It's a leap of faith. If two people are at the
- [Cyberbullying Concerns Growing Over Popular App Sarahah](https://drksmerling.com/cyberbullying-concerns-growing-over-popular-app-sarahah-child-therapist-nyc-and-mental-health/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about cyber bullying and the new app Saraha on Pix11.com. She’s quoted as saying: Family therapist Dr. Kathryn Smerling says the activity on the app is more than likely to produce depression and anger and even potential suicide in teenagers. “[Teenagers] actually don’t understand the full and
- [What Is Stockholm Syndrome? This Is How The Phenomenon Can Take Over Your Life](https://drksmerling.com/what-is-stockholm-syndrome-this-is-how-the-phenomenon-can-take-over-your-life-psychotherapy-nyc-and-best-therapists-nyc/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about Stockholm Syndrome on EliteDaily.com. She’s quoted as saying: Elite Daily spoke with therapy professional Dr. Kathryn Smerling, who also watched the TMZ video. She makes it clear that it's difficult to say whether or not Savage actually has Stockholm syndrome simply from watching the video. But Dr.
- [Why You Should Never Be Ashamed of Your Divorce](https://drksmerling.com/why-you-should-never-be-ashamed-of-your-divorce-separation-divorce-therapy-and-post-divorce/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about why you should never be ashamed of your divorce on Yahoo.com, Cosmopolitain.com, and RedBookMag.com. She’s quoted as saying: Divorce is ultimately about getting a fresh start, and wanting a better life is nothing to be ashamed of, says Kathryn Smerling, Ph.D., a family therapist and divorce expert. "Some
- [11 Little Things That Can Totally Transform Your Relationship](https://drksmerling.com/11-little-things-can-totally-transform-relationship-relationship-counseling-nyc-and-couples-therapy-new-york/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about the small things one can do to transform your relationship on SheKnows.com. She’s quoted as saying: “The-day-to-day hustle and fast-paced world we live in makes it challenging to really hear others and what makes them tick. If your partner keeps talking about knots in their back,
- [Wall St. Bros Get Infected by Flakey LA Fad](https://drksmerling.com/wall-st-bros-get-infected-flakey-la-fad-psychotherapy-nyc-and-psychologist/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about Wall Street bros being really into crystal healing right now on NYPost.com. She’s quoted as saying: “This is still a quest for material things. They’re still spending money on buying the most expensive or rarest crystal you can find,” says Kathryn Smerling, a therapist on
- [Concerns over online challenges trend after Bronx girl doused with boiling water](https://drksmerling.com/concerns-over-online-challenges-trend-after-bronx-girl-doused-with-boiling-water-child-therapy-nyc-and-parenting-coordination-nyc/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about online trends after girl gets doused with boiling water on Pix11.com. She’s quoted as saying: “The judgment teenagers have unfortunately is not a very wise one, very often,” Dr. Kathryn Smerling, a family therapist, told PIX11 News. According to Dr. Smerling, parents should never assume their
- [January is 'divorce month' - a lawyer and a psychotherapist break down the top signs a marriage is about to dissolve](https://drksmerling.com/january-is-divorce-month-a-lawyer-and-a-psychotherapist-break-down-the-top-signs-a-marriage-is-about-to-dissolve-separation-divorce-therapy-nyc-and-divorce/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about, "January is 'divorce month' — a lawyer and a psychotherapist break down the top signs a marriage is about to dissolve" in Businessinsider.com. To read the full article, click here.
- [Maintaining balance while social distancing: How to keep your mental and physical health in check](https://drksmerling.com/maintaining-balance-while-social-distancing-one-on-one-adult-therapy-nyc-and-mental-health/) - As the number of coronavirus cases surges across the area, so has anxiety. Emotions run the gamut as many of us navigate unfamiliar territory. The uncertainty bundled with social distancing — and what has probably boiled to cabin fever, in most cases — may be taxing, but mental health professionals say it’s more important than ever to maintain structure.“We’ve never dealt with anything like this before,” explained psychotherapist Dr. Kathryn Smerling.
- [Protecting your loved ones amid the coronavirus pandemic](https://drksmerling.com/protecting-your-loved-ones-amid-the-coronavirus-pandemic-therapist-practice-and-mental-health/) - Even if you’re not on the frontline fighting COVID-19, this can be a triggering and very stressful time. “It’s important to continuously remind yourself that this, too, shall pass,” says psychotherapist, Dr. Kathryn Smerling.
- [Resulted In Happily Ever Afters](https://drksmerling.com/resulted-in-happily-ever-afters-marriage-therapist-office-and-marriage-counseling-manhattan/) - Dr. Smerling was recently quoted in a piece about first date marriage proposals that resulted in happily ever afters on BravoTV.com. She’s quoted as saying: “People have a sense of intention. Now's the time,” says Dr. Kathryn Smerling Ph.D., L.C.S.W. in New York City. “It's a leap of faith. If two people are at the
- [Virtual therapy, other ways to get support amid coronavirus](https://drksmerling.com/virtual-therapy-amid-coronavirus-family-therapist-nyc-and-psychotherapy-nyc/) - "I think too many people suffer because they don’t make their needs known," says Dr. Kathryn Smerling, a family psychotherapist based in New York City, who highlighted the idea that grief is not restricted to those who have directly contracted the virus or lost a loved one.

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- [Couples Therapy / Relationship Counseling](https://drksmerling.com/services-provided-therapy-services-psychotherapy-treatments-kathryn-smerling-ph-d/couples-therapy-relationship-counseling/) - Dr. Smerling specializes in clarifying and deepening a couples’ connections through pre-marital therapy and relationship counseling.
- [Family Therapy](https://drksmerling.com/services-provided-therapy-services-psychotherapy-treatments-kathryn-smerling-ph-d/family-therapy/) - Using an inclusive and supportive family systems approach, Dr. Smerling’s family therapy work is tailored to meet a family's immediate and long-term needs.
- [Parenting Coordination](https://drksmerling.com/services-provided-therapy-services-psychotherapy-treatments-kathryn-smerling-ph-d/parenting-coordination/) - Dr. Smerling has extensive experience providing parent coordination and has assisted in this capacity in a variety of circumstances.
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