Dr. Kathryn Smerling’s blog reflects her thoughtful approach. It is intended to provide readers with both philosophical and practical advice, which can be integrated into their lives. This approach supports her belief that therapy is not limited to the office or the couch, but instead provides a powerful choice for a better life overall.
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I did not raise a Donald Trump. Like many mothers, I raised my son with an understanding that to be a man is not only to be strong and hardworking, but also to be loving and open to others. And like me, I see many mothers worrying about what a Donald Trump presidency...read more
Thanksgiving is long past; Christmas and Hanukkah arrive in a couple of days. If you escaped political dissension during the former, consider yourself one of the lucky few! Hunkering down to the December holidays (and yet more time with loved ones) may mean additional...read more
Ten years ago there were only two options for the women of La Boquilla, a poor neighborhood in Cartagena, Colombia. The choice was simple: either a woman stayed home, bore children, cleaned and served her husband; or she could sell herself sexually. Thankfully, this...read more
The violence of the past weeks is personally frightening and collectively overwhelming, and it’s only building on what’s happened in the recent past. According to PBS Newshour, in 2015 alone, there were 372 mass shootings in the U.S., killing 475 and wounding 1,870....read more
The emotional life of soldiers has long been pushed into the shadows. It seems to go with the territory. After all, acting as an effective member of the military requires following orders and doing whatever is required to defend your country against the enemy—at all...read more
Blended families are an ever-evolving dynamic which, when nurtured, can be immensely functional and inclusive. But, creating that blended family is nothing short of a skillful work of emotional art. Brick by brick, building a patchwork family out of the shards of what...read more
Quick – how many friends do you have? No, don’t just include your bosom buddies, or long-time loyal shoulders-to-cry-on; how many friends, in the real, and the virtual world? If you’re like most of us, then you probably will need time and a calculator to add them all...read more
I just returned from a moving and enlightening trip to Peru, visiting the Andes, Machu Pichu, and the Sacred Valley. Everywhere we went I was awestruck by the beauty of a culture and people who had to work intimately with nature to preserve their history and arts....read more
For many, divorce is the final act—there’s no going back. In fact, 80 percent of divorced people say they feel like they got a second chance after divorce—a fresh start. But for others, divorce offers potential for a repeat encore. A recent poll indicates that about...read more
Now that the holidays are over and the weather has turned to winter cold, January is the perfect month for mindfulness and reflection. This month, I would like to look at one small aspect of being mindful – that of forgiveness. How do we begin? First, we need to...read more